When I started blogging I thought if I’m going to do this I’m going to make sure it’s always honest and real.
Unfortunately sometimes that may mean I might bring up some controversial subjects but it’s ok to disagree, if everybody agreed on everything, life would get a little bit boring!
ADHD and medication
Yes, there you go I said it!
This is always going to be a subject that people disagree on.
When my son was first diagnosed with ADHD the pediatrician recommended that I tried medication out to get the ADHD under control.
As any parent would I asked questions, did any bit of research I could but that confused me more as you’d find something that was pro medication and then you’d look at something else to find it against medication. It makes the whole process very confusing and to top it off, you ask the pediatrician for advice and she looks at you like you’re stressing over nothing.
I had his school telling me that I didn’t have any other options to because the ADHD was so out of control.
That was wrong of them. It is not up to the school when you’re are making the decision to put drugs into your child or not.
If he was ill and the drugs were there to make him better than fair enough but he’s got ADHD! It’s not a sickness.
I have to try and figure out if this is what’s best for him or not.
I came to the decision that there was only one way to find out – give him the medication.
The first day went great, he actually sat and watched a whole TV programme without getting distracted or bored. That was new!
When the medication finally left his system, all hell broke loose. I had to send my daughter to her room because I feared for her safety. I instinctively knew what to do, let him go on the rampage whilst keeping him away from my daughter until he runs out of steam.
It worked and then he dropped to the floor crying whilst still trying to fight.
I laid on the floor with him and put my arms around him holding him tight. He tried to fight me off but eventually gave up and held on to me as tightly as he could.
I could feel all that anger and frustration leave his body and mind.
It was one of the most heartbreaking moments I have had with him and it was because I gave him that tiny little pill called Medikinet.
I said I would never give him one of those again. I would rather put the extra effort in all day then have an amazing easy day with him and have that when it wears off.
The following day I did some more research and realised that perhaps I was giving up too easily.
Maybe his brain just had to get used it so I gave it another chance whilst this time prepared for the worse.
For sure enough he was much calmer when it had left his body. I was right, he just had to get used to it. So in the day time he would be focused and calm and by the evening, I’ve got my hyper little dude back
I thought this could work! Perfect for school!
He was on it for the whole year and did amazing, his grades went from just below average to almost above average, he was making new friends, he was much more manageable. He was doing amazing! I was so relieved that first day didn’t scare me off!
Then it all changed, he started refusing to take the medication, we had discussions about why he needs to take it but he still really didn’t want to.
I asked him why.
His response was ‘I don’t feel like me when I take it, it stops me from having fun and enjoying myself’
That was it, I had a chat with the school and they discouraged me from taking him off of the medication.
I then spoke to the pediatrician and she said, his problems with focusing again will start so she also discouraged me from taking him off of the medication.
I went home and thought about it. Just because the issues are there doesn’t mean they always have to be resolved with medication. Sometimes I do believe it’s absolutely necessary but not always.
He will just need to have more support and the school should give him that rather then relying on medication.
I took him off the medication. I want my boy to do well in school but I’d rather him be an average grade student and be happy then an above average grade student feeling miserable.
I didn’t tell the school because I thought, everytime he slips up, they’re going to blame it on the fact he’s not on medication.
To this day they still think he’s on it and I’m more than happy with that because they are working with the real child and he’s learning how to fight and use his ADHD to his advantage.
I’m still open to giving him the medication if I think he’s struggling too much and it’s causing him to be unhappy or even if he comes to me and asks me for it.
I’ve read the pros and cons of medication.
This is neither.
This is saying it’s amazing for some but not for others. Like my boy, there may be moments when it’s needed but it’s not necessary on a permanent basis
If it was up to me, my son would still be on it because it helped him so much but he gave it a chance and agreed that it helped him but it made him unhappy which is not what my aim is.
Whatever your view on medication, remember most parents are doing their best for their child. They’re not looking for an easy way out! That’s not what it’s about. Medication is there to help our children focus and find life that little bit easier.
Many parents already feel the guilt of medicating their child but most of the time, they feel like they’ve gone through every other option.
For my boy, I do believe the meds did their job, we wanted to get the ADHD under control and they did just that.
So although, we can get by without the medication now I’m not sure we would be where we are today without them.
Maybe one day we might need them again but for now, he can enjoy life without them