The ‘C’ word

Do I dare say it?!

Christmas! Oh yes, it’s very quickly approaching and please don’t say I’m the only one silently freaking out!

The older the kids get, the more expensive the presents get!

I really want to meet those parents that only spend £100 on each child! I want to know where you shop!

Although I am a single parent and have always felt the need to prove that the kids have never missed out because of that, so perhaps I do spend a little more.

I know I don’t need to though, they are great kids who are incredibly appreciative. If I could only afford one small present I’m more than positive they would understand and just be thankful for that one present. Although that makes me want to spoil them more!

I have a 9 year old who is very teenager. He’s only interested in computers, music systems and speakers etc. Whilst my 12 year old is a typical 12 year old, phone, earrings and books, she’s a massive bookworm!

Every year I say I’m going to start in May this year so it’s all done and out of the way by December! Not once has that ever happened but next year I will! No, really I will this time!

We’ve got a holiday booked for April so when I get back and the kids are back to school I’m going to be on it!

Watch this space! Not literally though, keep reading!

I know what I’m going to say right now is completely cliche but let’s be honest, does it really matter if we can’t afford much?

I know my kids would be upset if they didn’t get anything but if we weren’t together they would be devastated!

That’s what really matters, I mean yes it’s nice to sit there on Christmas day watching the kids open trillions of presents, seeing their faces light up with every bit if wrapping paper torn off.

However spending that day playing ridiculous board games, (yes I insist the board games come out on Christmas day!) eating a lovely dinner which doesn’t have to cost that much! There’s no rule to say you have to have a £35+ turkey on Christmas day! And just generally having fun!

And 9 times out of 10 the kids prefer playing with the cheap bit of plastic that’s just fell out of the Christmas cracker then the 100’s of pounds worth of presents you’ve just bought them!

I’m going to spend a little less this year on presents because if you look back on last year, what did you get? Ask your kids what they got for Christmas. See if they can remember and how many presents they can remember. My kids would remember the ‘big’ present. That’s it! Yet if I ask them what we did last Christmas, they can tell me if we went out, what games we played etc etc

Presents matter in the moment, they are soon forgotten, memories spent together last a life time.




10 thoughts on “The ‘C’ word

  1. I fall into the dreaded Christmas trap. Every year I say I won’t do it. But every year – even when our team is one player down – I buy as if Christmas lasts a couple of weeks and a bus load of friends and family are descending on us every day. Fridge, freezer, food cupboards busting at the seems. This year I just must be sensible and buy only what we need. Also as the first Xmas after ‘that Santa reveal’ I suspect the present sacks may be more focused on what will be definitely used and played with.

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    1. I’m exactly the same with food! Last year I bought a chest freezer because I bought so much I had no where to store it! How bad is that?! I had my food delivered and even the guy delivering asked how many I was feeding! 🙈😂 I told him I have loads of friends and family come round on boxing day because I was too embarrassed to tell him it was for just me and 2 kids! 😂 Loads went in the bin! 🙈 I think I’ve learnt my lesson! 😂 I’ve already told the kids this year that because we’ve got a big holiday next year they won’t me getting a vast emount so they are prepared for a smaller amount! We underestimate our kids I think. We think loads of presents is the only thing that’s going to make them happy when actually all they want is quality time spent with us


  2. I blame the stores, then all of their friends. 🙂
    I’ve found I really start hating the holiday, though, so am trying to seek the activities and presents that make me feel love and happiness toward them all and not the desire to re-gift all their presents (and existing toys) to the homeless shelter.


    1. It’s an excellent idea. My son only said to me today that he’s going to look for some more ideas tomorrow to what he wants! 🤦‍♀️ I have explained very carefully that he can put as much as he wants on the list but I will only select a few! Half of the stuff they ask for, they only ask for it to fill up their list! I always find it amazing how they never want anything throughout the year but as soon as halloween is out of the way they insist they want every single thing off Amazon! 🤦‍♀️😂

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  3. My daughter’s birthday is after Christmas, so I’m buying for Christmas and birthday – back to back. I know that I can not compete with my ex – he has always had more money. But on the positive side – that is where my daughter gets her electronics so I don’t have to find the money for them nor is she missing out. I tend to buy things that are useful – like this year I bought her something to help with exercising since she does so many sports. I look for deals. Last year, I found so many deals in July I could not pass them up. I try to keep a specific budget, and I do pretty well (this year I went over thanks to shipping and handling…)

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    1. I send a list to my ex telling him what they want. I know he will only spend up to £100 so it’s pretty limited! I spend more than that just on the main present alone! 🙈 It’s a good idea to hunt down midyear deals. I just wish I was more organised!

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      1. I’ve given up trying to tell my ex what our daughter wants – he doesn’t listen. Instead, I try to tell my family some ideas, which will keep me from spending too much. Or if someone just gives her money then she can buy exactly what she wants.

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